Relationships are like bank accounts. Like bank accounts, in relationships you make deposits, withdrawals, and check your balance. Friends and lovers and couples would be healthier if they applied this principle to their relationships. It’s not hard. It’s like banking. Sometimes money goes in, and sometimes it goes out, and sometimes things are just status quo, you know, balanced. In relationships emotional energy is the currency.
Relationships require emotional energy. The energy is seldom in perfect balance. Sometimes one person is ‘extra expensive’ – requiring a lot of emotional currency. Perhaps a friend or lover or significant other needs to make hefty withdrawals – maybe they are in crisis, or depressed (from either neuro-chemical or situational causes), or just plain life happens and they need to withdrawal some emotional currency – the energy from the relationship you’ve built. What does that look like? Oftentimes, patience.
Sometimes the person in need of emotional currency needs to verbalize their conflict, or maybe they need to emotionally isolate. One may choose to give the emotional currency or state feel like the joint account has ‘insufficient funds’. The later is a tough one.
When one person repeatedly makes deposits to the relationship and the other makes withdrawals, the account becomes drained. For a healthy emotional account, both people must contribute to joint deposits. A healthy balance allows both partners to make deposits and withdrawals.