Relationships are like bank accounts. Like bank accounts, in relationships you make deposits, withdrawals, and check your balance. Friends and lovers and couples would be healthier if they applied this principle to their relationships. It’s not hard. It’s like banking. Sometimes money goes in, and sometimes it goes out, and sometimes things are just status quo, you […]
Friends
Laughing at Others
I guess we’ve each done it at different times. We laugh at someone verses with them. This seems to happen more in group settings than individual because groups often give us psychological insulation – we feel protected within the parameters of the group. We may say or do things we would not engage in as an individual. In […]
Do You Tell Your Friend about Their Kid’s High Risk Behaviors?
Marion from WI left a vm. Marion was told by a trusted friend that another friend’s kid is involved in high risk behaviors. What should she do? If you want to listen to my podcast, click to the left of this screen and play. Dear Marion: 1) Ask yourself what is your goal? Once you […]
Girlfriend Stuff
Amanda from IL left a vm and expressed frustration with her girlfriend – but acknowledged, “I know it’s me.” Anytime we get a zing from someone – stop, go to the nearest mirror, and look at your reflection. It’s nearly always a projection. What characteristics does that person carry that you either deny in yourself, or […]
Friends and Boundaries
How far do we go for our friends? What are the boundaries when we’ve had life long buddies? Yikes, always a tough one. I believe in loyalty to a fault with friends, and covering “their six” in most situations – except when kids are involved. Listen to Beth’s dilema as to whether or not she […]
Friend and Boundaries
EMAIL: Beth wrote: I love your new podcast!! I heard about it from the Diva Cast and thought I would have a listen. Well today at work, I caught up on all your episodes (Dear Zanny). I can correlate some of your advice to other events in my life (the cat and mouse and projection of […]