My values got tested recently. I was about to hire a contractor to do some granite installation in my home. The owner of the business did the consult. He is a very attractive man from another country. He was overtly flirtatious, borderline inappropriate, but I did not take it seriously and merely laughed it off. That was not […]
Self Deprication: Humility or Inferiority?
I went to the gym this morning. Yep, I did the 10:30 a.m. centergery class with some of my girlfriends. I noticed a woman in front of me. She had lovely legs. Since I’m nearly 47 years-old, my legs certainly aren’t what they used to be! I only wish I would have appreciated what I […]
Prostitution? Eliot Spitzer…
The big hoopla today is all about NY Governor, Eliot Spitzer, and his alleged appetite for high priced call girls ~ aka prostitutes. Ironically, it was Spitzer himself while Attorney General who investigated similar activities several years ago which sent 18 people to prison for money laundering and corruption. Of course late night comedians are having […]
Friendship Boundaries
Healthy boundaries within close friendships can be a challenge to many. What do you do when your friends want to ride with you to a party, or hang out with you longer than you do? How do diplomatically set your limits. Leah from San Diego left a voice mail asking just this – something so […]
Gift giving and expectations
Is it a gift, or a non-verbal contract with strings attached? I try to be ever conscious of my behaviors, for example, I stay in therapy, I continue reading books that promote emotional well-being (typically C.G. Jung, Robert Johnson, James Hillman and even the “pop” psychology stuff), and yet I still get stuck in my own ego. Recently, I […]
What drives your behaviors?
My unconscious impulse – which I could not resist, got me to buy a Army green Jeep Wrangler. What’s up with that? My ANIMUS is screaming to be heard! Yes, my inner masculine self has been duct-tapped for nearly a decade – but that tape has decayed and my animus is coming out. Swiss psychiatrist, […]