How many times have you angrily erupted and the recipient looks at you like you’ve just grown two heads? What’s up with that? This displaced anger or “over reaction” is nearly always a sign that your emotional tank is too full. Sometimes if your erupt at someone, it doesn’t have anything to do with them […]
Behaviors
Verbal Abuse – Verbal Attacks – Emotional Abuse
Kim from TX sends an email to TheDivaCast.com first, and we (The Divas) agreed that it was better responded to by me, Zanny. Kim has been married for 5 years to “a wonderful father, a good provider, and a life partner…” but his fatal flaw is the verbal abuse he spews, sometimes daily, at Kim. […]
Easter-Holidays & Forced Family Functions
It is Easter morning – a day Christians observe Christ’s resurrection. Many families around the world will be together. Some people are eager and willing while others join their family of origin with tense trepidation. If you experience increasing anxiety over family get-togethers, you are normal. Most families have some level of dysfunctional behaviors and long standing patterns which nobody […]
Anti-Semitic Sentiments
My values got tested recently. I was about to hire a contractor to do some granite installation in my home. The owner of the business did the consult. He is a very attractive man from another country. He was overtly flirtatious, borderline inappropriate, but I did not take it seriously and merely laughed it off. That was not […]
Self Deprication: Humility or Inferiority?
I went to the gym this morning. Yep, I did the 10:30 a.m. centergery class with some of my girlfriends. I noticed a woman in front of me. She had lovely legs. Since I’m nearly 47 years-old, my legs certainly aren’t what they used to be! I only wish I would have appreciated what I […]
Gift giving and expectations
Is it a gift, or a non-verbal contract with strings attached? I try to be ever conscious of my behaviors, for example, I stay in therapy, I continue reading books that promote emotional well-being (typically C.G. Jung, Robert Johnson, James Hillman and even the “pop” psychology stuff), and yet I still get stuck in my own ego. Recently, I […]