Tim Russert, aged 58, died this week of a cornonry emoblism. I always liked him – he seemed like a really nice and decent man. Lolita S. emailed and wanted to know why his death feels so painful to her when she never met him. If you have felt this way, ask yourself: “How is […]
Grief
Suicide: Prevention & After Care
Finding out that a loved one suicided is like being hit by an emotional tsunami. The aftershock and devastation to loved ones left behind is gut-wrenching. A listener emailed and asked for resources. Here is the best in the nation: 1) The Link Counseling Center – phone: 404-256-9797, email: www.thelink.org. The Link was founded by Iris Bolton […]
911 Anniversary
Today marks the 6th anniversary of 9/11. Why do we still invest so much time and energy into commemorating the dead? Because sudden death almost always complicates the healing process. Ritual facilitates healing; often when ritual is missing, griever’s get stuck. Rituals don’t have to be expensive or lengthy or involve anyone else. They can […]
Pet Loss – Grief
A caller asks: My dog, Molly, died of cancer several months ago, we were constant companions. I still miss her. My friends and some family members think I’m silly. Am I normal to still feel so sad? Answer: Yes! Pet loss hurts. We become so attached to our beloved animals – regardless what species it […]
Princess Diana’s Death – Part 2
Addendum to previous show. This weekend marks the 10-year anniversary of Princess Diana’s death. How can someone we’ve never met reduce us to tears? Ask yourself: Where have I ever felt this way before? When you can answer that, you will know. Many times, new death resurrects previous losses. So, even when it’s someone you’ve […]
Princess Diana – Grief
This is the third DearZanny show. This weekend marks the 10-year anniversary of Princess Diana’s death. Why do we still miss her so much? Why do we still get misty-eyed and grieve her loss? One word: PROJECTION. We all project unowned parts of our shadow onto others. Those parts that are too painful or/AND too glorious for us to own we […]