Pursuer-distancer relationship dynamics occur in all types of relationships – lovers, siblings, and friendships – but why? What does the pursuer need that the distancer senses and makes them RUN?! The pursuer (one who’s chasing) needs to take a deep breath and stop for a moment and ask themselves, “What is it I am asking […]
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Friendship Boundaries
Healthy boundaries within close friendships can be a challenge to many. What do you do when your friends want to ride with you to a party, or hang out with you longer than you do? How do diplomatically set your limits. Leah from San Diego left a voice mail asking just this – something so […]
What drives your behaviors?
My unconscious impulse – which I could not resist, got me to buy a Army green Jeep Wrangler. What’s up with that? My ANIMUS is screaming to be heard! Yes, my inner masculine self has been duct-tapped for nearly a decade – but that tape has decayed and my animus is coming out. Swiss psychiatrist, […]
The Bachelor Premiere
A voicemail from Courtney in LA gets the conversation cranked! Last night was the season premiere of The Bachelor TV show. Twenty-five women to one (OK, Brad is very hot) man. The women all know the score and all know before they don their designer dresses and high heels that ten of them will be […]
911 Anniversary
Today marks the 6th anniversary of 9/11. Why do we still invest so much time and energy into commemorating the dead? Because sudden death almost always complicates the healing process. Ritual facilitates healing; often when ritual is missing, griever’s get stuck. Rituals don’t have to be expensive or lengthy or involve anyone else. They can […]
Child bed wetting, again
Frustrated mom leaves a vm. Her 5 year-old son who was potty trained is wetting the bed. He doesn’t want to wear pull-ups and mom doesn’t want to shame him (Thank Goodness!) How does a mom handle this one? First question: What’s going on in little one’s environment? Next question, could be physical… Listen and […]