How many times have you angrily erupted and the recipient looks at you like you’ve just grown two heads? What’s up with that? This displaced anger or “over reaction” is nearly always a sign that your emotional tank is too full. Sometimes if your erupt at someone, it doesn’t have anything to do with them […]
Relationships
Verbal Abuse – Verbal Attacks – Emotional Abuse
Kim from TX sends an email to TheDivaCast.com first, and we (The Divas) agreed that it was better responded to by me, Zanny. Kim has been married for 5 years to “a wonderful father, a good provider, and a life partner…” but his fatal flaw is the verbal abuse he spews, sometimes daily, at Kim. […]
Easter-Holidays & Forced Family Functions
It is Easter morning – a day Christians observe Christ’s resurrection. Many families around the world will be together. Some people are eager and willing while others join their family of origin with tense trepidation. If you experience increasing anxiety over family get-togethers, you are normal. Most families have some level of dysfunctional behaviors and long standing patterns which nobody […]
Toxic Parents
This email came from Anabella, a 42 year-old Italian immigrant. Her own mother was abusive both phsycially and emotionally. Now, Anabella’s father is dying and her mother wants Anabella and her two young children to stay with her. NO! NO! NO! Anabella – you’re entitled to protect yourself. Listen how. Two wonderful books on this […]
Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic
Pursuer-distancer relationship dynamics occur in all types of relationships – lovers, siblings, and friendships – but why? What does the pursuer need that the distancer senses and makes them RUN?! The pursuer (one who’s chasing) needs to take a deep breath and stop for a moment and ask themselves, “What is it I am asking […]
Anti-Semitic Sentiments
My values got tested recently. I was about to hire a contractor to do some granite installation in my home. The owner of the business did the consult. He is a very attractive man from another country. He was overtly flirtatious, borderline inappropriate, but I did not take it seriously and merely laughed it off. That was not […]