I went to the gym this morning. Yep, I did the 10:30 a.m. centergery class with some of my girlfriends. I noticed a woman in front of me. She had lovely legs. Since I’m nearly 47 years-old, my legs certainly aren’t what they used to be! I only wish I would have appreciated what I […]
Relationships
Friendship Boundaries
Healthy boundaries within close friendships can be a challenge to many. What do you do when your friends want to ride with you to a party, or hang out with you longer than you do? How do diplomatically set your limits. Leah from San Diego left a voice mail asking just this – something so […]
Gift giving and expectations
Is it a gift, or a non-verbal contract with strings attached? I try to be ever conscious of my behaviors, for example, I stay in therapy, I continue reading books that promote emotional well-being (typically C.G. Jung, Robert Johnson, James Hillman and even the “pop” psychology stuff), and yet I still get stuck in my own ego. Recently, I […]
The Bachelor Premiere
A voicemail from Courtney in LA gets the conversation cranked! Last night was the season premiere of The Bachelor TV show. Twenty-five women to one (OK, Brad is very hot) man. The women all know the score and all know before they don their designer dresses and high heels that ten of them will be […]
Cat & Mouse Romantic Dynamics
The woman from TX left a vm and said my advice worked….phew! I love it when that happens! She was frustrated, confused and hurt when her new romantic interest put the brakes on and said, “We’re going to be OK, but I need to take things more slowly.” That’s always an ouch. She wanted to […]
Difficult Step Children
A listener is in a new marriage – a second one. Her new step daughter is difficult and sulky. This is a classic “pursuer-distancer” (or “cat and mouse game”) relationship dynamic. The one person pursues while the other RUNS! Guess who has the power? Answer: The one doing the running. Avoid this common dynamic by […]