How many times have you angrily erupted and the recipient looks at you like you’ve just grown two heads? What’s up with that? This displaced anger or “over reaction” is nearly always a sign that your emotional tank is too full. Sometimes if your erupt at someone, it doesn’t have anything to do with them specifically – that is when your feelings/anger is “displaced.” Other times, the person you spew verbal vomit has just ticked you off for the laaaaaaaasssst time! Maybe their comment was innocent, but it held just enough toxic energy to trigger you – like the match to the powder keg.
This is when you need to step back and self-examine why your emotional barometer is pegged to the max. We all do it, have done it, and (I for sure) will end up doing it again. It’s definitely time for emotional introspection so you can address the real cause of your anger.
Ah yes! Why did I just yell at my SO? She’s really a loving and caring woman… hmmm…
Do you know who Ellie Van Winkle was? She discovered (as a research neuro-scientist) that all emotional outbursts were caused by sublimated anger. Not winning any prizes, nor writing any books, her research findings were not spread widely. And, of course, therapists didn’t accept her findings. You could find out more about her at http://www.redirectingselftherapy.com
Personally, I wonder if past grief and other traumas might be a significant contributors to in-the-present odd behavior. Also, I know that energy based healing therapies often help one move past those seemingly unreasonable outbursts.