By: Suzanne Maiden As a psychotherapist, I see many young people struggle with their sexual orientation. Many confide feelings of both bi-sexuality or straight homosexuality. And, the sacred space in which they divulge their secret is the first they have verbalized their inner truth. I have the privilege of being the first person with whom […]
Relationships
Abusive Father
Dear Zanny,Hi, this is Annie from California. I have a very abusive relationship with my father. We usually don’t see middle ground on many things, but the worst thing is that whenever I disagree and provoke his temper, he explodes and abuses me either verbally and/or physically. My dad has called me hopeless, futile, pathetic, […]
Longing for the Other
By: Suzanne Maiden Sometimes we go through the motions of life and all seems well. We can honestly say we experience relative happiness, contented relationships, and what many would identify as “a good life.” What happens, then when something comes along and tips the proverbial apple cart? What now must be metaphorically picked up, examined, […]
Sexual Intimacy ~ Spiritual Ecstasy
By: Suzanne Maiden The sublime power of sex; heightened sensual sensations, aroused emotions, the divine expression of love, the final crescendo culminating in physical ecstasy is a true spiritual gift. I recently had a lengthy conversation with a young person regarding the distinction between what we termed ‘physical maintenance’ vs. making love. I was so […]
Holding Your Partner Emotional Hostage
Stephanie from Louisiana called and asked how she can “get over” her spouses previous poor financial decisions that they finally are recovering from. Stephanie can’t “let go” of her spouses mistake and admits she constantly monitors his every move and reminds him of his prior poor judgment. How can she move forward? Dear Stephanie: When […]
Substance Abuse Recovery and Your Partner
By: Suzanne Maiden When your partner is in recovery for substance abuse for either drugs or alcohol or both, the supporting partner should abstain. Period. I know many couples who have a partner in recovery and continue to use, specifically alcohol. I hear, “Why should I stop drinking? I’m not the alcoholic?” I do not […]